Anger, rage, frustration, annoyance, irritation, outrage and acrimony all may have their cathartic effects so lauded by many, but as I see temper and its manifold manifestations an exercise in futility.
I get angry like any other person, but to give unabated passage to that resentment and distemper is pointless - this I have learnt through many a misguided attempts at showing anger and its resultant negative effects. I believe giving vent to your anger just gives rise to more and more antagonism, the more we yield to our passions of displeasure and hatred the more angry we feel. Anger begets anger.
Besides generating successive bouts of umbrage, anger is basically a non-effective way of trying to achieve something. If you are angry at your child for not studying, chances are your screaming and shouting or silent treatment isn't going to help much (this of course is first hand experience.)
Excessive anger to me is indulgent and extravagant. I feel the more angry you feel the more egoistic you are, for you somehow believe that your feelings of peevishness and your tantrums are valid and justified, and therefore must be witnessed and endorsed by a serving audience. We get angry and then stay angry because we want to assert our righteousness.
Anger never solved much in my life. And like most people I have had my share of problems, irritants, frustrations, and disappointments. People do not behave as you wish or want them to, situations don't turn out the way you plan, results often oppose expectations - basically life happens. Nothing is guaranteed in life, we may want, wish, try, dream and plan but things may turn out one way or another. Situations are never in our control, neither are other people and their actions, what is in our control is our response to them.
Of course it is hard to have command over our feelings of anger and it is alright to know and acknowledge what we feel, but to nurse that anger, animosity, is self defeating and counter productive.
Unleashed anger is dangerous and can erode our sense of self and our relationships with others.
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