An argument, no, a discussion with friends over desi food led me thinking...on what is LOVE? I understood one thing form the errr.. volatile discussion, that love is different things to different people which is fair enough, but what is most interesting is that the mere word LOVE is heavily loaded! It comes with a huge trail of baggage, of withered emotions, of broken dreams, and unfulfilled desires, that is generally.
People who crave LOVE, who somehow find it missing and absent in their lives have a strong opinion on what it is or is not or what it ought to be and so on adinfinitum. I have observed those who are secure in good healthy relationships, have their needs being met in interpersonal and intimate relations do not ponder what LOVE is or isn't. They live LOVE, they feel it, and they experience it.
On the other hand, people, who do not have LOVE in their lives, who feel they are missing something significant from their existence, who have no one to be with romantically, they ponder and debate on lOVE. They have strong feelings about it, a dejected lover may spurn LOVE and doubt if such a thing actually has basis in reality, some women who have no one to share their lives and moments with and have been mistreated by men, and dejected in their love relationships may be disillusioned about it. They may say there is no such thing as LOVE (totally cynical) to there is LOVE but one can love only once in life that one and only person (the idealist) and to there is only lust and no love between a man and a woman (totally realistic.)
Whatever the take, the sad and the jilted have a lot to say on love. And these unloved people are the ones that need LOVE the most, for they are hungry to be noticed, starving for positive and flattering attention, they want to mean something important to another, they want to be wanted, they aspire to be put on a pedestal by another and cherished. They are in need of validation, of confirmation, of recognition of their own beings, their beliefs, their desires and feelings.
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