there are two kinds:
1) Involuntary - where events spiral out of your control and you cannot do anything about it, for instance, the actions of others, the weather, your child's grades, how someone feels about you and so on...
2) Voluntary - is when you simply don't care or get so exhausted mentally trying to control things around you that you're faced with failure, you feel simply overwhelmed, and unable to manage your life, your servants (that is if you happen to have any) your kids and yes! their grades, your weight (which seems to spiral up as if n super sonic elevator) and so on......
In the first type of 'loss of control' you feel depressed and sad, things are what they are because they are so! and nothing will or can change them. If you have lost someone to death, you need to accept the fact of your own limitations; no matter what you do or however much you want them to come back to life they never do return. There is a certain resignation in this kind losing control. One eventually comes to terms with the harsh reality no matter how painful it is and goes on, maybe not with the same vigor but still.
In voluntary loss of control, you lose yourself to sadness and depression. It is more of a side effect of involuntary loss. You let yourself go, and as time passes you want to concern yourself with fewer and fewer things. The grades of kids don't really play a huge role, your weight? well?? what do a few pounds matter anyway? what is there to eat? who wants to cook and clean and so on. You want to give up participation in active life, want to retire into a corner and not engage with anyone, you just don't want to do. And, the cruel fate works somehow in such a manner, that it saps you of all energy to do as well!
But, you know what both kinds of loss in control envisages a 'loss' nonetheless and as humans we are not very well equipped with necessary anatomy and biology to deal with loss of any kind. I don't want to face any loss of any kind ever again!
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