Are men and women intrinsically different in the way they love? is it true that men cannot be faithful to a woman ever? that they must cheat and walk into the arms of another woman/women even though they love a woman. Do women think and behave in the same manner, do they show more loyalty to the one person they love.
These are some very basic questions, but do we actually address them, or do they make us unduly uncomfortable. A man in our society is by definition allowed a much larger freedom of thought and action than a woman. And a multitude of his acts are explained as part of his nature. So, aggression, possessiveness, waywardness is seen as second nature to man, he cannot be satisfied with one woman (no matter how desirable she may be) and hence looks to other prey. It is accepted as long as it is done with style, translation secrecy, somehow, we are able to forgive men of their infidelity because it is taken to be done as a matter of fact, a kind of 'boys will be boys' thing, we accept is because we don't delve into its causes, we just give it a tab of 'men'! what to do!, and silly excuses such as 99.9 of men do it.
Women like to believe that even if their lovers/husbands have a bit of fun on the side it is on the whole OK, as long as their lives aren't affected, and then what to do with all those vampish women out there luring their husbands. We also know as a matter of truth that the same kind of 'variety seeking' in the beds of other women is unforgivable crime on part of women and certainly would call for dissolution of marriage and family. WHY? Please don't sit back and say that there are lots of frivolous women cheating on their husbands out there, I 'm sure there are, but here we are not talking of exceptions rather the rule. We are more ready to condemn cheating wives than cheating husbands!
So what is it that men are seeking? what is that elusive high, that effervescent feeling, that unknowable elixir that they want to own? And where does this vagabond searching ends, if it ever ends. Are men perpetually disappointed in women and want to look for that fleeting dream of a woman in another and so on? Or is it unquenchable and naked lust that wants to conquer more and more women. It can't be a lust for sex only, that is to trite a reason, it has to be something deeper, like a power dose? having more women increases his self-worth in his own eyes, its an ego trip? but then again these reasons seem too superficial in their psychoanalytic approach.
What is it that induces men to take risks, to live dangerously, to be forever keep hanging on the precipice, on the edge? is it the secret thrill of being found out, the malodorous desire to be deviant, to be slightly evil.
Whatever the reason its certainly quite prevalent, I mean the presence of some other woman in life of men belonging to all social strata. Could it be silent social acquiescence, could it be the simple fact of being able to get away with it.
Whatever the reasons they remain a mystery unless men or a man wants to shed some light on it.....
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